Sincerity is an openness of heart; we find it in very few people; what we usually see is only an artful dissimulation to win the confidence of others.LA ROCHEFOUCAULD, Reflections
Being a fanatic fan of korean serials, I was watching '49 days' recently and it led me to write about this topic. In short, the serial was about a soul seeking 3 drops of pure tear from three people who truly love her apart from her family within 49 days. She initially thinks that it will be an easy task since she has many loving friends around her, alas hurtfully she realizes it is not as easy as it seems. So...I started wondering..in life are we ever sincere to ourselves or others ? When are we sincere ?
Anton Chehkov once wrote there should be more sincerity and heart in human relations, more silence and simplicity in our interactions. Wise words indeed. How true ! Sincerity is generally understood to be truth in one's word and actiont.By ‘sincere’ we understand that a person acts according to his/her conscience. There is a test for sincerity and its level of attainments. One who has achieved mental sincerity will not complain about anything. One who has achieved sincerity at the physical level will not meet with failures of any kind in his work.
Rather than being sincere many habitually protect themselves by presenting a mask to the world instead of their true selves. They feel compelled to adopt some carefully constructed persona in place of expressing their real heart, even with their closest friends and intimates. Why? Are we ever sincere in any relationship ? It still troubles me to find that many will answer no - which led me to the next question...why is hard ?
If you can't be sincere to the one you love or your friend...why be in that relationship first of all ? Just putting up a fake connotation with another person does not only hurt them but you as well. If you can't tolerate or don't like to be with a person...wouldn't it be better that you be sincere and accept the fact. Reasons like white lies and taking care of ones' feeling is merely lame excuses to escape. Why torture others and yourself in the process ? It'd be easier to just to be true. But then again..the choice is not mine to make...each individuals decides what is good for them. Hence...the choice is theirs to make.
Be rude when you’re angry, laugh when something is funny, and answer when you’re asked.
-Chekhov
