u know how sometimes people tend to screw your day or your mood without even being present there...well, it has been happening to me lately.
what makes me smile is...when people say they understand & love you as a close friend,only to throw words that don't even justify the so-called-friendship. my late father always reminded his daughters- be careful with what you say to others, because it is difficult retract words. think before you say anything.
it is so easy for someone to accuse you of belittling them, being coward and so on. it hurts when this someone claims you are their close friend. well, news flash, it does not seem so. i am a firm believer that in friendship you don't judge. you accept them as who they are.
i dun tell my friends how to act in any situation. as a friend, i will be there, i listen, i advice, i share, i feel but never judge. how you react to smthg or what you decide, is solely your choice. as a friend i can learn to adapt or understand but not accuse just because it is done not according to my rule. Well, that's me.
Why is being silent so wrong ? How sure are you talking or arguing will not make thing worst ? Sometimes people resort being silent to avoid confrontation or arguements. just let them be. Praise david tyson who said "True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable". obviously none here.
Fine, once confronted and things are going well.. who screws it up again. For the first time, i am being called lame & hiding behind my work. Mind you - it's from the same person who 'loves' me as a friend. Like I said...I will not judge. The moment this 'friend' listed all my flaws, i understood clearly. i am no prime minister or the secretary general but does that make my life or job less important. well it was my mistake because i tot u'd understand as my friend...my bad. bottom line, i dun have to justify to those who dun even care to understand. what hurt the most was when someone without properly asking you lash out at you with sentences like "you think we are a phone company"? seriously ?? you ? my close friend ? yeah rite !
we have a tendency to think that our way of seeing the world is accurate or ‘correct.’ However, there are many different types of people, all with a different way of seeing things.Sometimes you are going to meet individuals with a very different way of looking at things, so much so, perhaps, that you can hardly agree about anything at all. The key here is to genuinely try to put yourself in the other person’s position and try to see the world as he does.
fine with me..as long as i have conscience & i know that i have treated them right. only God knows. i dun know about others but let me make it clear here - i am not showing off or hiding behind my blog posts. what i say reflect what i am. i've had enough...find a friend that suits your standards. God bless! Adios ! Period !
