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Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either.

-Erich Fromm

Is there ever a time to say, "Enough! No more Ms. Nice"

Ever had a situation where you are being neglectful to yourself (or your family) by tending to the whims of fussy and selfish person?

We define a nice person as someone who cares about others and is sensitive to their feelings. Sometimes we are brought up in such a way. We've all met these sorts of individuals in our lifetime. Some are (rarely)selfless, seeing beyond their own wishes and putting the needs of others before their own... and some selfish hardcore creatures.

Being brought up by such wonderful parents, I am one of those who grew up putting the needs of others before my own. I trained myself to put myself if the shoes of others and along the way i realized it caused me more hurt than contentment.

Many times I was told un-nice behaviour is the best response. Like the saying "with a sly person, be sly. It angers me seeing people who can't see beyond the little circle of their ego, resulting me to question myself if being nice the correct approach or will a more stern method ultimately achieve more greater good?

How do you draw the line?

Maybe the answer lies in evaluating our motives.

Asking, why be nice? Is it the right way to approach life? Or just for the sake of being thought of as a nice person? Perhaps the key is developing an inner strength.

Some of the most self-centered people look strong on the outside, but are weak within, completely incapable of overcoming their personal biases and whims. While some of the nicest, kindest people may seem weak on the outside but have the steely determination within—to do the right thing. Whether that means saying an accommodating, sweet "yes" (in most cases) or an unkind, stiff "no." Not because they are affected by how others will view them. But by how their Creator does.

I prefer the latter.

What do YOU think? When is it time to stop being nice?