Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.--Anon
Letting go is one of the hardest lessons in life. Recently i had an encounter with a long lost friend. Someone i was not close with but after the meeting we became somewhat close friends. I learned a lot from this friend in the short span time. And... I am still learning. We shared many insights especially on life... and one of the best advice i got was to relax and take life as it comes...
Being thru pain and several downfall in life... i have managed to get up and face everything thrown at me. No matter how hard it was i managed. Maybe with God's grace. The thing is sometimes we get tired of being put to test hoping for it to end. Emotional exhaustion cause such an heartache. You can be as strong as a granite only to realize that your heart is not that strong... yeah, we are not robots for goodness sake.. just an imperfect human being...living a decent life. I am thankful to God for being my side to give me the support i need in the form of my family & some trusted friends...
I just dun get it...why can't any lovers just end a relationship properly without walking out on their partners without an explanation. This happened to several of my friends. All i say to them is..let go..move on...like Dr. Phil said "Does he really even make you happy? Be honest with yourself about the extent to which he's really meeting your needs. Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish he was. Dr. Phil reminds a guest: "There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things. And then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'" Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.
Ask yourself: Are you hiding in the relationship so you don't have to face the reality of being on your own? Don't stay with someone because it's comfortable and safe. It may seem more secure, but it's not healthy for you and it certainly won't help you get to a better place. Why would you want to settle and waste your life away just to avoid getting back in the game? This is true...and sadly many of us tend to do it...
Being hurt in love...we are afraid to trust and to love again. It's normal...But then don't hold all men / women responsible for the mistake your ex made. Why should they pay for the sins of someone else who may have wronged you? Learn to trust again — by trusting yourself. Trust is not about how much you trust one person or another to do right or wrong. How much you trust another person is a function of how much you trust yourself to be strong enough to deal with their imperfections." Have enough faith in yourself to be able to put yourself on the line with someone, without any guarantee of what will happen next. If you're playing the game with sweaty palms, it's because you're afraid of what you can or can't do, or dealing with your own imperfections — it's not about the other person.
Don't invest more than you can afford to lose. While it's important to move forward, you need to take things one step at a time. Focus on yourself. Some of us feel comfortable being alone (we have our reasons) and some are strong enough to look for love.. Whatever the decision may be.... 'may the force be with you' (a phrase my friend always text me).
Relax friends ; )
psssttt....dedicated to a certain Prince Caspian ; )
