Take a bow...

The flowers are all faded now

Along with your letters

They will never see the light of day

Cause I'll never take them out

and there's no turning back

it's for the better baby

I deserve more than empty words and promises

I believed every thing you said

And I gave you the best I had

So take a bow

Cause you've taken everything else

You played the part and like a star

you played it so well

Take a bow

Cause this scene is coming to an end

I gave you love

All you gave me was pretend

So Now

Take a bow

The future's about to change

Before you know it the curtain closes

Take a look around

There's no one in the crowd

I'm throwing away the pain

And you should know that your performance

It made me stronger now

Well it must have been sleight hand

Cause I still can't understand

how I could never see

Just what a fool believed

but the lies they start to show

tell me how it feels to know right now

that I wont be around

so baby

before I put you out

~Leona Lewis~

Pain is inevitable...suffering is optional

Many of my friends have fallen in love again and again only to grow apart and feel the sadness that love tends to give after it goes away. Love hurts through different ways, you can be in love and with the one you love and still be hurt, or a breakup in a relationship can hurt. It does not take a long time to end a relationship, but it surely takes a lifetime to forget someone you once loved so dearly.

There's a reason i'm writing about this today....it's dedicated to few of my very special friends (u know who u are). One who hides her pain perfectly behind her smiles. It hurt when first love failed but when second failed too...it's unbearable. She loved, she never asked for anything but love in return. She smiled when others got gifts and she didn't, she didn't mind she never had a date, she never had good times yet she stayed by him. Yet...she was hurt when he choose not to appreciate and be the selfish man he is.

Among my friends, she is the best. I personally think any guy who knew her will say the same. She makes them smile. When my girlfrends ask their boyfriends for diamonds, flowers and money...she ask for love and care. Told her to choose her man wise...yet she choose a jerk. Now she's alone, loving it and looking forward to the days of future. She don't mind going back to her empty house and having no one to hold her. I'm proud of her. The strength to overcome her pain...she's working on it..

Anthony Robbins said "the secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you." Wonderful! You go girl !

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.If you come to fame not understanding who you are, it will define who you are"

Are Leaders Born or Made ?

Shakespeare once said: "Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and somehave greatness thrust upon them". Where as Vince Lombardi quoted that leaders aren't born they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that's the price we'll have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal.

For me personally no one can give leadership to any other person; you cannot be made into a leader by taking a new assignment or moving to a new position. You can be promoted into being a manager, a vice president, a president, or a dean. You can be elected to Congress, or to the governor’s mansion. You can start your own company, and make yourself chairman of the board. But you cannot make yourself a leader by giving or getting a title. Leadership is not about titles, fame, money, power, or position. It’s about followers. A person is a leader because other people follow the example he or she sets. It really is that simple.

Lao Tzu said go to the people, learn from them. Live with them. Start with what they know. Build with what they have. The best of leaders when the job is done, when the task is accomplished, the people will say we have done it ourselves.

But you can develop your leadership skills. there are leaders everywhere. They are all around. In your personal, professional, or academic, most likely others are watching what you do and say and following your example. Odds are you are leading—influencing the actions and attitudes of those around you—and you don’t even know it.You can start to become a more effective leader right now by simply taking responsibility for the leader you already are.

Mahatma Gandhi quoted the future depends on what we do in the present. - . Now...he was a true leader. He led by setting an example how a leader should be. His modesty was the utmost quality i believe any leaders should have.