God Put A Smile Upon Your Face...

Where do we go nobody knows?
Don't even say you're on your way down,
God gave you style and gave you grace
And put a smile upon your face...
~coldplay~

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly

Recently i came across this scenario: a friend who fell in love with three girls,but none worked. It made me thinking...

How many times have you truely been in love? Do you feel that true love never dies, that if your feelings change it was never actually love but infatuation you were experiencing? When did you first fall in love? Nobody can deny that when we fall in love with someone, the emotions we experience are very intense, and we feel wonderful and very happy. Sometimes you meet someone and feel at that time that you’re destined to be with him/her. He/She will be your everything, lover, companion, best friend, and soul mate. True love endures all and lasts forever. Love is something that can't really be defined. It's different for each individual. To me, you know you're truely in love when you can look ahead in time and you can't see your life without that person. When you leave the person's side and you instantly miss them. Being willing to do absolutely anything in your power for that person, and giving unconditionally without ever expecting anything in return. When you fall in love with someone it is usually not through your own conscious choice. Many times people fall in love with other people who are not really the best match for them..yet love accepts all. We feel like anything is possible, that there are no limits to what we can do together. We feel we can overcome all obstacles and we will live in a state of bliss forever.

True love is permanent and should last a lifetime...

A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are. A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart. True friendship is seen through the heart, not through the eyes. But what is the good of friendship if one cannot say exactly what one means? Anybody can say charming things and try to please and to flatter, but a true friend always says unpleasant things, and does not mind giving pain. Indeed, if he is a really true friend he prefers it, for he knows that then he is going good. It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny....

listening from your heart!

One of the most difficult things to do in relationship is to listen--truly listen from your heart without blame, judgement or "you ought toos and you shoulds." It's also difficult to take the time to listen without allowing distractions to pull you away from what the other person is saying. It doesn't even matter if the person you are listening to is baring their soul or not, It's incredibly important to stay present, interested and focused on that person. All of us want to feel loved, respected and honored. And one way we have found to have this is to love, respect and honor someone else. We found that listening without interrupting the other shows respect and also builds trust. What a simple concept, but how hard it is to do. Something that is even more difficult to do is to listen to someone when it's uncomfortable to do so. When there are conflicts or resentments in a relationship that haven't been dealt with yet, there is an emotional charge that is present and that makes it difficult to stay focused on the present moment. In that time you're not really focused on the other person andwhat he or she is saying. You are focused on your emotions or your attempts to avoid pain. Another difficult situation is when you have preconceived prejudices and judgements of the person.Our judgements build walls even in the healthiest of relationships. When you are trying to listen to someone with whom there have been challenges, it requires you to listen with unconditional love in that moment. That doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they say. But, it does mean forgetting yourself and your issues while they are talking. We are so quick to rush in and prove we are right, that all we do is create more distance.

Sometimes the greatest gift you can give someone is to just listen with your heart. So this week practice listening and coming from love in your relationships. When you do, you'll see a difference.

Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it..

Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable. I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together.When I say, "I love you," it's not because I want you or because I can't have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I've seen your kindness and your strength. I've seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are.We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. You may not love me today, tomorrow, or ever, but I will love you until it kills me, and, even then, you'll be in my heart.

The wounds of love can only be healed by the one who made them..

losing someone...

Losing someone close to you changes your entire world. The pain you feel will often times be different, depending on the type of loss you have suffered. Death is an amazing experience. It touches us in so many ways, yet until we experience the death of someone close to us, you don't fully understand how it can touch your life. You might wonder why I chose to write about death today. Unfortunately, my closest friend was touched by the death of her brother and I was reminded of the pain I felt when I lost my father. My own heart break that my friend have to suffer from the lost of her loved one because I know the pain all too well.You wonder sometimes if it is it better to have time to say goodbye or is it best for it to be unexpected. Neither one will suffer less grief because of the time associated with the departure of their loved one...

all the right reason...

things happen for a reason... do they ? our lives are shaped by people who love us and people who refuse to love us. everyone has their reasons for keeping people away, an instinct to protect yourself from getting hurt...it's part of human nature...life can take your dreams and turn them upside down, friends will talk about you when you're not around, reality can really cut you down to size, but don't ever lose the light in your eyes. People make you promises they'll never keep, soon you'll know why people say talk is cheap, life resembles one big compromise but don't ever lose the light in your eyes ...

somehow, we learn it's impossible to please everyone so stop trying and be who we really are and then live with that decision...

i am not perfect but you make me want to be...

Wait for the one who pursues you, the one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical, the kind who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better person. wait for the one who will be your best friend, the person who will drop everything to be with you at anytime of the day no matter what the circumstances. wait for the one who makes you smile like no other and when smiles you know the person need you. wait for the one who wants to show you off to the world when you're wearing sweats and no makeup. most of all wait for the one who will put you at the center of his universe, cause obviously he's at the center of yours.

Love the ones who love you, not the ones who smile at you because the one that smiles at you might be lying to you, but the one that loves you might be suffering for you.

There are many lessons in life that only time can teach you, like how much you love someone, its nearly impossible to know that, until you spend your days without them, and then there are those lessons that you can learn only through the beating of your heart, and through feeling such strong emotions that you can barely breathe, then finally, the essence of time and the power of your heart crossing paths, and the only knowledge your left with is the realization that time is the one thing that keeps you from letting go, no, its never the embracing, or the kisses, not the laughter or the tears, only time....

till death do us apart...

Someone once said, it is easier to die than watching someone you love die. What does death mean to you ? Death reminded me of the future. If i die today...what is going to happen to my family ? who is going to take care of my mom ? do we have enough financial support ? so many questions lingered thru my mind.

Despite the pain and hurt we go thru in losing someone so close to our hearts, we are constantly reminded that life goes on. Everything changes eventually. That’s just the way life is. And you have no control over it. Suddenly people you thought would always be there disappear. People die. Silence is the most powerful cry. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we give up..but giving up doesn't always mean that we are weak; sometimes it means that we aren't strong enough to let go.Life is about change, sometimes it's painful, sometimes it's beautiful, but most of the time it's both. Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.

Often we allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. We lose many irreplaceable hours brooding over grievances that, in a year's time, will be forgotten by us and by everybody. No, let us devote our life to worthwhile actions and feelings, to great thoughts, real affections and enduring undertakings.Time goes by so fast, people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell the people in your life how much they mean to you. Sometimes, no matter how much faith we have, we lose people. But we never forget them. And sometimes, it's those memories that give us the faith to go on

Alas...dying is not the end of everything. We think it is. But what happens on earth is only the beginning....

forgiving is not forgetting, it's letting go of the hurt..

Sometimes people just say and do things that you just wonder to yourself, 'Why? Why are they doing this? Don't they know I have feelings too?' And it's sad to know that sometimes these people are your friends.

To let go isn't to forgot, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn't leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn't about winning or losing. It's not about pride and it's not about how you appear, and it's not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn't blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and doesn't leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It's not about giving in or giving up.

Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It's about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.

Should i let go and forgive a friend who deceived me ?

Let go maybe..

forgive..never...

someday...

Someday
When the earth and heaven are one
And we all walk together
hand in hand
You'll have a place in your heart for me
But for now, it's only just a dream
Until you see how I care for you...