if only....

Have u ever told someone something precious - (say a secret or smthg close to your heart) only to regret when you find out that person is not the person you thought they were....

what do you do ?

Ever had a constant fear that this person is/has/or might tell others about it. You know how vulnarable we tend to be when we are faced with something heartwrecking...and having this person claiming to be your friend... you pour your heart out...without realizing anythg. My mistake - trust..dun trust anyone easily. i learned it the hardest way possible. Cos u see...only as time passess you will eventually come to know about people... so wait...dun trust someone easily.

What should the solution be ? Shd i just forget it and leave it to God ? Hmm..maybe....I am dumbfounded...blur & worried :(

Better to be known as a sinner than a hypocrite...

A wise man said that a hypocrite despises those whom he/she deceives, but has no respect for themself. He/She would make a dupe of themself too, if they could. With so many going around i couldn't refrain myself from saying something here (instead of @ the person's face)... Call me coward but i just dun think it's worth it.

I dun get it. How can someone perfectly talk nicely in front of you ...say nice things ...ask this & that ....and behind your back...kabooom....diarrhoea of verbal curses...contrast to the praises uttered. I dunno...i really dunno how they can do it. After knowing their true colour I begun to doubt their sincerity and preferred to stay away from such person.

Many told me...advices indeed ... hey, just pretend nothing happen...act normal...The thing is I can't. Everytime i look at their faces ...the truth slaps right across...giving me wake up calls...making me wonder if their friendship is worth it.

My last resort.. stay away...

Be as you are...

I got this from a friend...happy reading ;)

Maharshi read out from the tamil version of Yoga Vasishta, the story of Deerga Tapasi who has two sons, Punya and Papa. After the death of the parents the younger one mourned the loss and the elder brother consoled him as follows: "Why do you mourn the loss of our parents? I shall tell you where they are; they are only within ourselves and are ourselves. For the life-current has passed through innumerable incarnations, births and deaths, pleasures and pains etc., just as the water current in a river flows over rocks, pits, sands, elevations and depressions on its way, but still the current is unaffected. Again the pleasures and pains, births and deaths, are like undulations on the surface of seeming water in the mirage of the ego.The only reality is the Self from where the ego appears, and runs through thoughts which manifest themselves as the universe and in which the mothers and fathers, friends and relatives appear and disappear, They are nothing but manifestations of the Self so that one's parents are not outside the Self. So there is no reason to mourn. Learn it, realise it and be happy." The above is also liberation from the face of duality. The path to liberation is also the path to acknowledge and be as you are (as liberated).

"Within ourselves and are ourselves". If everyone acts to this fact, do you think there would be war in this world, apart from other individualisticness?There wont be any. There wont be even single ego rise to discussion, no argument, no selfishness, not even ownership of the worst creation - money!

Credit to : DK http://jupiterflare.blogspot.com/

Change s Inevitable

In a few weeks time ... my time here will end. It is so unbelieveable that it's goin to be a year already and we would be finishing soon. I was sitting in class and looking at the same batch of people who walked in in the first class. Hmm...i sense changes. Some remain loyal to their friends, some sits with the same person from day one, some who fell in and out of love, some who realized who's true and who's not...and some who became more 'kiasu' than ever.

Change = Inevitable. Everything or everyone is bound for change at some point of time. Good or bad, time decides..self decides. The thing is we have the choices of making those decisions to change. After a year here...what have i learnt ? Plenty - Knowledge. People. Experience. Being in service for 10 years smthg precious i learnt is - in working life u need both knowledge as well as experience. A blend of both will teach and give the answers to many questions along the way of life. Many feel that with degrees, masters or Phd they had enough but trust me...nothing is easy. Experience teaches a man things he never knew. Be humble. Ask. Learn. Don't underestimate anyone. You can never know where the answers are. Humility is the best policy. It will never hurt your ego. So...I quote Gandhi ji... be the change you wish to see...

being moral @ being happy ?

Today my professor said something that made me thinking - "being moral is not neccessarily being happy ". Of course we were talking about ethics then but it really had me evaluate some things recently i encountered. I can choose to be moral and decisions i made might not make me happy. I was blogging about 'fake friends' we meet along the walk of life...and a dear friend asked "why u choose to be the way you are". My reply - I respect & care for all my friends but... I hate friends who pretend to be nice in front of me and at the same time bad mouth me behind my back. By the way, is that a 'friend' (in the first place) ? People change over time...i get it but try not to hurt others along the way. Be who you want to be... do what you want to do... but make sure it does not break the respect, heart, trust or love others have towards you. Some people are ego, some lie, some hide ... without knowing the truth might get out and it hurt others...especially friends.

When i choose my own path and decide to be silent...i realized i may make my decisions based on my moral obligations...and it can cause my happiness but failing to do so may harm my principle. If they are your true friend, they will never fake. So i guess sir was right ... bbeing moral is not neccessarily being happy ; )

Sharing knowledge is not about giving people something, or getting something from them. That is only valid for information sharing. Sharing knowledge occurs when people are genuinely interested in helping one another develop new capacities for action; it is about creating learning processes. We seem to gain wisdom more readily through our failures than through our successes. We always think of failure as the antithesis of success, but it isn't. Success often lies just the other side of failure.

Let us see what you get by hiding all the knowled ge you gain ...shall we ? God is great, remember that.

As for you ppl who call yourselves FRIENDS...but dun even know what it means...here smthg for you :-

False friendship, like the ivy, decays and ruins the walls it embraces...so Stay Away!

e.x.a.m.s

It's just the exams or the time i don't know...but i see many being selfish during this time. Grow up people. Share your knowledge. U ain't gonna lose anything. Stop being so selfish ! To Basma....thanx a zillion for being an angel !

God Bless ; )

24.02.1951.... missing you ...pa

:'(

missing my dad...

When I was a little girl,

I can still remember our happy moments we shared together.
You're my mentor, you thought me a lot of things in life, moral values,
Respect for elders, things that is useful to our everyday life.
As a Dad, you showed me of the how, the why, and the where,
No matter what has come about; you were always there.

That was September 2004 when I heard the news.
The doctor said you have cancer and there's nothing they could do.
After I heard that, my world starts to shiver.
My heart broke everytime I saw you on the bed
3 weeks later, you've left us all.

That was so painful and the hardest thing to accept,
for a grieving daughter that I am.
Years may come and go,
but your memory will never be erased.
I once knew a man, who gave love at his best,
And no one can ever take your place.

I miss you so much DAD!

to let go...

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.--Anon

Letting go is one of the hardest lessons in life. Recently i had an encounter with a long lost friend. Someone i was not close with but after the meeting we became somewhat close friends. I learned a lot from this friend in the short span time. And... I am still learning. We shared many insights especially on life... and one of the best advice i got was to relax and take life as it comes...

Being thru pain and several downfall in life... i have managed to get up and face everything thrown at me. No matter how hard it was i managed. Maybe with God's grace. The thing is sometimes we get tired of being put to test hoping for it to end. Emotional exhaustion cause such an heartache. You can be as strong as a granite only to realize that your heart is not that strong... yeah, we are not robots for goodness sake.. just an imperfect human being...living a decent life. I am thankful to God for being my side to give me the support i need in the form of my family & some trusted friends...

I just dun get it...why can't any lovers just end a relationship properly without walking out on their partners without an explanation. This happened to several of my friends. All i say to them is..let go..move on...like Dr. Phil said "Does he really even make you happy? Be honest with yourself about the extent to which he's really meeting your needs. Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish he was. Dr. Phil reminds a guest: "There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things. And then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'" Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.

Ask yourself: Are you hiding in the relationship so you don't have to face the reality of being on your own? Don't stay with someone because it's comfortable and safe. It may seem more secure, but it's not healthy for you and it certainly won't help you get to a better place. Why would you want to settle and waste your life away just to avoid getting back in the game? This is true...and sadly many of us tend to do it...

Being hurt in love...we are afraid to trust and to love again. It's normal...But then don't hold all men / women responsible for the mistake your ex made. Why should they pay for the sins of someone else who may have wronged you? Learn to trust again — by trusting yourself. Trust is not about how much you trust one person or another to do right or wrong. How much you trust another person is a function of how much you trust yourself to be strong enough to deal with their imperfections." Have enough faith in yourself to be able to put yourself on the line with someone, without any guarantee of what will happen next. If you're playing the game with sweaty palms, it's because you're afraid of what you can or can't do, or dealing with your own imperfections — it's not about the other person.

Don't invest more than you can afford to lose. While it's important to move forward, you need to take things one step at a time. Focus on yourself. Some of us feel comfortable being alone (we have our reasons) and some are strong enough to look for love.. Whatever the decision may be.... 'may the force be with you' (a phrase my friend always text me).

Relax friends ; )

psssttt....dedicated to a certain Prince Caspian ; )