u can...

You can either hold yourself up to the unrealistic standards of others,

or ignore them and

concentrate on being happy with yourself as you are

~Jeph Jacques

Moving on, is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard...

Letting go doesn't mean giving up... it means moving on. It is one of the hardest things a person can do. Starting at birth, we grasp on to anything we can get our hands on, and hold on as if we will cease to exist when we let go. We feel that letting go is giving up, quitting, and that as we all know is cowardly. But as we grow older we are forced to change our way of thinking. We are forced to realize that letting go means accepting things that cannot be. It means maturing and moving on, no matter how hard you have to fight yourself to do so.You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done one wrong but also oneself. Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can't prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you're presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power. Like Pat Riley said "courage is not the absence of fear, but simply moving on with dignity despite that fear"

......

Be just, and fear not.

Let all the ends thou aim'st at be thy country's,

Thy God's and truth's.

~William Shakespeare~

24.02.1951

Every year,

on your birthday,

I think about how glad I am

that i was born,

how thankful I am

to have had you in my life.

Every year is another year

I miss you ...pa

& I love you very much....

Happy Birthday Pa!

Wise words of Wiesel

Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing. Peace is our gift to each other. Words can sometimes, in moments of grace, attain the quality of deeds.

~Elizer Wiesel~

when trust is broken

What ever the relationship... friendship, family, love...it need TRUST. Trust is the foundation of all relationships. Without that security, there is no faith. Without faith, there is no integrity.A bond of trust is something that develops over time. It is a remarkable part of a relationship based on respecting the strengths and weaknesses of others. However, trust is often lost and when that happens the struggle to regain it begins. Broken trust can hurt. When you tend to trust someone who's your friend and they betray you...what do you do ...Hurt & anguished.. When the betrayal is accompanied with bunch of lies...it makes things worst. Trust is assurance in another that allows one to assume discretion and confidentiality in relationships.William James, the great American philosopher and psychologist once wrote that we have the right to believe and trust, to know with certainty that a person or thing will not fail. When it fails..and trust is broken...we are faced with the ultimate question of whether we will trust the person again...only God knows..

Love can be sordid only if you work at it..

Love is a noble act of self-giving, offering trust, faith, and loyalty. The more you love, the more you lose a part of yourself, yet you don't become less of who you are; you end up being complete with your loved ones. Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.Life is filled with happiness, sadness, tears, smiles, laughter and other emotions but when life gets you down, just be strong about it and keep your head up high and have faith in all things in life. Always remember: God is at your side, always.

I like tis quote :- One day you will ask me which is more important, you or my life? And I will say my life, and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life.

To my mom & sis ,

Your love is a gift that I treasure more with every passing day, As time goes by I find myself discovering more and more reasons to love you. This Valentine's Day, I'm thinking about how wonderful it is to have your love in my life. Thank u for everything. I love you with all my heart. Be blessed ;)

To all the rest out there...may every day be Valentines Day for ya'll ;)

Yes...politics are dirty !

When you mix people and power, you get politics." - Winston Churchill

The recent happenings in malaysia is frustrating me. It makes me sick watching TV3 news. The ought to get their objective reviewed and realize what media really does. Suck ups ! Gosh...what is happening ? No one is bothered about the nation, the people or it's growth. Every politician is looking after their own periuk nasi. So selfish! There can be no doubt about the dirtiness of our politics.Bottom line is...no matter what the truth of the matter, let us not fool ourselves. People will NEVER believe.

Salju Di Danau Rindu...

Tak pernah ku kesal

Memilih dirimu

Biarpun pudar kelam masa silam

Bagiku kasih sayang satu anugerah

Tak ternilai olehku

Benarlah katamu hidup penuh pura

Tetapi tidak pada diri ini

Cintaku tulus suci lahir dari hati

Salju di danau rindu

Mengapakah sukar menyakinkan cinta

Yang terbiar layu disirami duka

Sedangkan diriku umpama pengemis

Mengharap kasihmu itu

Izinkanlah aku menyintaimu

Dan sesungguhnya cintaku satu...

~Mamat-Exist~

No reason..i just liked the lyric..and the song...

F.R.I.E.N.D - This is for - (You know who you are..)

I am writting this about a friend. Someone , in just a short time became so close. It felt like we knew each other for a life time. I have friends but very few of them are guys and the friends i'm close to only very few (whom i share my secrets with.) I'd be there for them. Like Jacques Delille said "Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends". I've learned that there are many good friends around, but true best friends are hard to come by. Being hurt continiously, I am very careful with frienship terms & conditions.

4-5 years we've been friends...i've come to learn a lot abt my friend. I may not be perfect yet my friend accepts me for who i am. I appreciate that. I would also thank my friend for letting me experience some things I've never had the chance to know. I once went out with my friend. Having dinner at BB and walking around BB (KL) was an unforgettable experience for me. For some...it might be something normal...for me it turned out to be cherished moment. I got to see KL at night in the company of a nice friend. I felt safe. Besides that, we share experiences and encounters. I love listening to my friend's stories and sit anxiously waiting for more new stories..We seldom...seldom meet or cal each other ..we sometimes exchage text messages... but i know my friend is there for me. I appreciate my friend and thru this post i wish my friend realize how much our friendship mean to me. Hope we can be friends forever....

This is for you ... THANK YOU !

You may meet a person and instantly know that you will be best friends forever. In some friendships you may feel a sense of equality. There are no rules about how a friendship has to be. All friendships are unique and special in their own way. Each one is valuable. Roads in life are often twisted, Strewn with damaged dreams and hopes. Often, all that is left is empty space, With little direction, few ways to cope. In the darkness, in the silence, Only faint memories of joy are heard. Overrun by difficulties and stresses, We strain to understand a single word. It is in those times, when faith is fading, When no questions of life make sense, The truth of friendship calls our name, Says what seems broken only has dents. Out of the silence, the night so dark, Growing from dim to almost sunlight. We see other faces, they are all around us, Lending their strength to increase our might. Now we're stronger, no longer silent, Our voices are a chorus; hope is on the mend. Blessings abound because we are surrounded, By great men we have the honor to call friend.

Pa...

If I could write a story
It would be the greatest ever told

Of a kind and loving father

Who had a heart of gold

If could write a million pages

But still be unable to say,

just how Much I love and miss him

Every single day

I will remember all he taught me

I'm hurt but won't be sad

‘coz he'll send me down the answers

And he'll always be my APPA

New year...New Resolution

The new year is always considered to be a good time to reflect on how you are doing personally and professionally. It'll be a time to answer questions like 'did you accomplish the things you set out to do?" It is a time for looking back to the past, and also a time to look forward to the coming year. It's a time to reflect on the changes we want, or need, to have the motivation to move forward. Many of us choose to make a New Years resolution to improve something about ourselves after reflecting on the past year. For me personally...I'd go with the flow. I'll live one day at a time. Making plans may be beneficial yet we must be prepared to face the unexpected. I learnt this in my life. Life is an everyday education.Like Anatole France said "an education isn't how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It's being able to differentiate between what you do know and what you don't. All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. So...all i ask now...is..

God, grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

the courage to change the things I can;

and the wisdom to know the difference.